The psychodynamic approach I use focuses on the relationship that is created by a couple; informed by each individual but separate from them too. In therapy this relationship is the shared object of our collective interest.

 

Aspects of the relationship are held consciously in mind but are much influenced by established patterns operating out of awareness. The nature of the relationship holds together and repels, helps and hinders. It is the work of the couple therapy to uncover these patterns, and potentially shape new ones. As the couple learn to recognise their own relationship, and adapt it, resilience is built and the sense of the relationship as a resource available to both is enhanced.

 

This is pursued by meeting weekly for a 50 minute session in which, with few exceptions, both members of the couple are present.

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WHO IS COUPLE PSYCHOTHERAPY FOR?

 

A relationship in conflict is a relationship evolving. Couples seek help for many reasons but can include: 

Facing a crisis
Experiencing a loss
Feeling stuck
A wish to separate
Challenges to a wish to move in together, or to Marry
Sexual difficulties
An affair
Challenges to having a child

I see heterosexual and LGBTIQ+ couples. This approach appeals to people who consider they have a relationship both parties shape for better and worse, or would like to get their relationship to one that is shaped by each.